As with every holiday, we felt it was important for you to receive the same "treats" as other children. Easter, Halloween, etc. We had our own way of dealing with what we did with the treats, or when you ate them. Sugar free chocolates from Van Otis are great *editor's note: I don't think so anymore*, but they still contain calories.
This particular night you had requested spaghetti for dinner. Like most children, you liked pasta. Yours with sauce on the side of course! It was probably right before I was to begin cooking dinner, and I was upstairs, you downstairs. You were very quiet, but for you that was normal, always busy with your coloring, books, etc. When I came downstairs I saw you make a beeline around the house in the opposite direction of the kitchen. Hmmmm, there were little pieces of colored foil on the floor. When I met you in the living room, your cheeks were full of chocolate Easter eggs. Now you had only had diabetes for a year or so, so this floored me. I had no idea of figuring out how many you had eaten, what to do about the calories, dinner, and of course you had no idea. The main thing is that Daddy and I had made the choice that food was never to be a battle with you. So I determined that you should have no pasta for dinner, we would give you Regular insulin based on your normal dosage, hoped that you had candy that matched the carbs you were scheduled to have, and monitor you till bedtime testing and insulin. You were SOOO disappointed about having no pasta. I explained the hows and why of your choice of eating the candy. Oh you had such a sad face. I don't remember how the rest of the night went with glucose readings. But it was the first time all of us had to deal with you acting like a normal 4-year-old after Easter, and us having to deal with the adjustments and corrections of diabetes. I guess I felt that you needed to know that your choice to eat the candy was okay, but that affected your choice for dinner as well.
That was a day that again reminded me how different your life would be with all the birthdays and holidays. I hope that because of the flexibility we did "allow"you on those occasions, that you knew that on occasion, you could eat the cake, ice cream, and some candy. We just had to plan more than others did.
As always, when one door closes, another opens.